Wow! Thank you so very much, all of you, in trying to solve my problem. I really, really appreciate you taking the time out to help me.
I checked last night, and all three of the bedrooms in question have air returns. Two small - 10x10, and one larger 10x20. The one with the larger return has the pressurization problem; although I haven't put my hand by the bottom of the door to actually feel the airflow, having the door actually pull itself closed when the A/C turns on seems like a confirmation of that problem. Funny, the bedrooms with the smaller returns don't have that problem, although the A/C just blows you away when it's on - it's way too strong. I have no clue about the size of the duct; I'll have to check the attic this evening.
The thermostat for the room with the larger return is in the living room, (which faces West and has a huge picture window), under one zone, and the thermostat upstairs for the two other bedrooms is in the hall, under another zone. The hall thermostat is right by the stairs, so I know that it's getting air from downstairs, which exacerbates the problem.
I feel that the location of the thermostats may be the main cause of the problem, but if we move it to the bedroom, won't that just move the problem from the bedroom to the living room? Same thing upstairs - if we move it to one of the bedrooms, the other bedroom will have a problem, especially since one bedroom faces East and the other faces west, with large windows.
So, like davo wrote, was my contractor trying to solve the problem by putting returns in every room, but ended up making it worse because of the location of the thermostats? He didn't have any recommendations about where to put them.
Pstu - thanks for the link. I had no clue that a pressurization problem could lead to mold. The Building Science info mentioned that, but it was pretty technical and I didn't quite "get it". Luckily, we have no vinyl wallpaper, but still..... The product from Tamarack Technologies looks like something we need to look into. I especially liked the baffle to eliminate sound transfer, and the notion that only a 1" undercut, combined with the jumper ducts, will make a large difference.
Does everyone else agree this is the best way, or should we move the thermostat(s)?
I just thought of something else. We had new, high-end, windows installed last year, triple-pane with argon gas and Energy Star certified. They replaced 1952 super-leaky aluminum casement windows. They're a great sound barrier and I was also expecting a lower electricity bill, but there was absolutely no difference. Wonder if the inefficiency of the HVAC system is the reason......
Thanks a lot.
Bettina