Sorry for the long post, but need to vent, and get some opinions.
As some of you know by my previous posts, I don't exactly feel "Accepted" by certain members of my family......my 2 sisters to be exact.
Here is a story of the most recent thing that really just "Irked" me.
As you know, I am living with one of my sisters, due to the fact that she broke it off with her b/f 3 years ago and wanted me to move in to help her cover rent so she could stay here. (Idiot me, I said yes. This is the same sister who can't even turn on th A/C until SHE feels the need for it.)
My niece, now 5 had not yet been baptized. My sister has put it off and put it off, partly because she didn't want a lecture about having a child out of wedlock, and partly because she had a hard time choosing Godparents.
Finally, she decided to have our brother in law be the Godfather. Now mind me, my 2 sisters talk all the time, and my other sister is constantly *****ing about him and how he drinks all the time or they had some kind of argument, ETC, and how she is already tired of him (After only 1 year.)
Anyway, my parents were planning a visit here to Connecticut to visit us. So, my sister figured, she would plan the baptizm for when they were here so they could attend. So, she goes and makes all of the plans.
That night, she called my sister to tell her about the plans and ask my brother in law if he wanted to be the Godfather. He said yes, and then called up his priest, as he has not been to church in many years.
They get to talking, and decide that since they were married a year ago in a non-denomination church, they would get their marriage blessed in the catholic church, after the baptizm.
While they were on the phone making these plans, my sister decides to do a 3-way call to our mother. They call, and my mother picks up, at which point they start to tell her the plans. Our mother gets very exited, and tells our Dad. So, my Dad picks up another extension in the house, and they go through the whole thing of what they have just planned. During this time, my brother in law also picks up another extension in his house, and they all start talking about the baptizm / blessing.
So, there is basically this 5 way conversation going.
During this conversation, not ONE of these 5 people (My 2 sisters, my brother in law, my mom and my dad) even bothers to ask if I have been told yet, and not one of them bothers to offer to tell me what is going on as they are talking.
Thier own BROTHER!
Any NORMAL family, after they had planned all of this, would have done 1 of 2 things:
Either they would have hung up the phone (Or at least when they were on the phone before they made that 3-way call, told their brother what they had planned and that they were about to do.
In my opinion, what SHOULD have happened here, was that they should have told their brother what they had planned, and let ME pick up a phone in OUR house, and be INCLUDED in this conversation.
But no, they make this 3 way call, and not one of the 5 people are even concerned about weather or not I have been told. My parents didn't even ask why I was not being included in this conversation, or ask weather or not I knew about it yet.
Once they all got off the phone, about 10 minutes later I came upstairs, and after a while, THEN my sister tells me everything that they had planned, and that they made the 3 way call and told our folks, ETC.
This really upset me, not so much because I was the last to know, but because of the fact that I was so left out of the whole thing.
What do you guys think here? Should I be ticked off, or does this sound like something normal? All of my friends I have told this story to can not believe it, and one person even told me I need to pack up now and get the hell out.
Once all my ducks are in a row, I plan on doing just that anyways.
Will probably cut off ties with my family at that point. I have been in connecticut for 5 years (Moved here to try to get CLOSER to my sisters), but if I listed all the sh*t ike this that has gone on just in the time I have lived here, this thread would be longer than the 9mm thread.
When I move out, I am going to probably move back to Kansas and cool down, then will just not speak with my sisters anymore and just get on with life.