It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes
harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they
When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are over sensitive, and
there's nothing worse than an over sensitive woman.
My name is Bert. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
Since I retired several years ago, it has become necessary for Jeannie to
get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and
for the health insurance benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her
age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home
Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest
for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her.
Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets
dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club
so eating out is costly and not reasonable and I'm ready for some
home-cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not
unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do
what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that
they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does
seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say
that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during
her lunch hour.
But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer
encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days.
That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing
lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I
mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.
She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn. I
try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice,
big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just
sit for a while and, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as
well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Jeannie. I'm
not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find
it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows
better than I do how frustrated women get, as they get older.
However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less
criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that
writing this was well worthwhile.
After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
Bert died suddenly on March 1 of a perforated rectum. The police report says
he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha
Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip
showing and a sledge hammer laying nearby.
His wife Jeannie was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury
took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Bert
somehow, accidentally sat down on his golf club.