'Morning Bret and everyone. JP, your nephew's at an age where he's either gonna get it on his own or not. Doesn't hurt talking to him without babying so he knows that somebody really gives a $%#! and doesn't just coddle him.
Can I vent??? I need to blow a little steam off, here.
Been dealing with family problems for a while, now.
My nephew, aged 21, is a... well, for lack of a better word, he's a spoiled, rotten little brat. I'd very much like to plant a steel-toe squarely up his
Now, I do feel for the kid, to a point, he lost his mother about 12 years ago. Problem is, he's been coddled and babied about it ever since. Never really been made to face it.
Now, he's married (TOO YOUNG!) and I found out that he was hitting and cheating on his young bride after less than a year. I called him and bawled him out for a while. Told him exactly what I thought of what he'd done and what I'd LIKE to do to HIM, but that I wouldn't because I was a REAL man. Then, in the same conversation, I gave him some "big brother" type advice. Things that I've done and learned on how to live within a marriage. Thought that I'd done the right thing.
A short time later, he was having some 'mental' issues. Spent a few days in lock-up, I guess, for either threatening to or attempting suicide. Now, I have VERY strong feelings on that particular act and was afraid that I wasn't just couldn't be nice about it, so I steered clear for a bit.
I've recently reached out to him. Invited them both into our home so that we could talk and so that he could have a male role-model of sorts to look up to. After accepting an invitation to visit over thanksgiving, he spent the weekend lying to me about why they didn't come.
Comes down to this: Kid was laid off from his job and didn't have money for gas. LORD, don't I understand that tale!!! Thankfully, in almost 18 years in the trade, I've not yet been laid off, but I've been out of work due to injury.
I can understand, being a man and being embarrassed about being broke.