Wife moving out this week

[lakeman1234]

Thanks for the advice guys. You know the guy she is seeing wouldn't bother me so much but he used to be a good friend. Had it been someone I didn't know, it would have been easier. I just think that when a friend tries to come between you and your woman that is about as low as it comes.

[lakeman1234]

Thanks for the advice guys. You know the guy she is seeing wouldn't bother me so much but he used to be a good friend. Had it been someone I didn't know, it would have been easier. I just think that when a friend tries to come between you and your woman that is about as low as it comes.

By the way I don't sit up a midnight thinking about this. I work from 6pm to 6am.

[ikey]

don't mess with her or him. The harder you try to investigate and enact your revengfull scheme. the more you show her you are still wrapped around her finger. she's got you and she knows it. forget about her, many other women would and will treat you as you deserve. heart is broken, your a man get over it and work all you can to keep your mind off of this. soon when you least expect it, you'll meet the one that needs you.

good luck

[dcasper]

Take the high road. Even as tempting as revenge sounds.

Was marriage counseling an option in your situation? Because it is amazing how we think you heard what we said - and you didn't get the meaning AT ALL. Not even close. And that goes both ways. I'm planning on counciling for me and my husband and we not in trouble at all. But what I would like to see is us communicating better, so that it doesn't get to be a problem. He agrees too. But he's been through a divorce before and doesn't want to do that again of course.

Good luck to you. And you are probably right on the money with how you are acting towards her - nice - that will really mess with her mind more than anything! Remain friendly if at all possible. You'll probably have more in the end then if it gets nasty. Not only material possessions, but your sanity and dignity as well.

[lakeman1234]

Funny you should ask about counseling. She wanted us to go it it. We went to our first session last week. Bear in mind she had not told me she was moving out but I knew she was. I didn't say too much in the counseling office. The counselor kind of put more blame on some of her problems than mine. (Bear in mind I take responsibility for the problems that I have caused in the past, I'm not perfect either). Anyway after we left the counseling I asked her if she was going to move out and she said she hadn't made up her mind. I then proceeded to tell her I knew she had already rented a house and what town it was in. I figured it out partly from the emails but also from the phone records. Told her she left a trail of breadcrumbs anyone could follow. Anyway she asked me why I didn't say much in the counseling and I told her what did you want me to say that you are a liar, telling me what I want to hear and doing the opposite behind my back.

[The Penguin]

The absolute best revenge in this situation is to BE HAPPY grounded and unflappable AND MOVE ON get your self a new girlfriend and show that you just don't care about the ex.
By you moving on that alone will pizz her off more than anything else you could dream up. I gurranty it will get under her skin!

Also Ya better lawyer up NOW this is no Diy unless you want to end up living in a Van down by the river.

Suck it up mate and don't piss around with this relationship anymore its dead you need to bury it and go find new boobs to play with. The sooner you realise this the better for you

Lakeman suck it up get over it get a new girlfriend get a good lawyer on the double get a divorce.

[coolwhip]

Its not the guys fault, its your spouses. Cancel all your credit cards and close your bank accounts. File for divorce and get yourself a cookie kwan to take care of you. Dont get married again unless shes got tons of dough.

I hope there are no children involved.

Good luck and move forward not back.

[smokin68]

If you try to win her back or even show you care, you will become a permanent door-mat, or her personal roll of toilet paper. The best thing you can do is like others have said.....move on. No revenge,no beating someone up(he can have her), just be really HAPPY that you're now single. Now if you decide to go out, wear that wedding band.....proven chick magnet. good luck to you.

[tech_support007]

Beat her to the punch. When i was going through my divorce it was really hard. Her dicission not mine. I really loved my x but I guess there were some things going on that I didn't know about. What I did was right after I left I took her off my insurance both health and life. She called me one day and I told her that I didn't want a dragged out fight. She can have everything even the house. She told me that we can use the same Lawyer just to get the legal portion of the divorce faster. I told her sure, lets file together. The next day I had her served. According to a mutual friend she was devistated that I would pull anything like this. She called me tht day and said " I thought you wanted to be civil about this?" I told her, "my lawyer tells me that I should avoid contact with you." then hung up. When we met for our settlement my lawyer just ate het lawyer up. Anytime my lawyer said anything her lawyer just looked at his notes with a dazed and confused glance. Apparently he had no clue what he was doing. Well after everything was said and done she had to pay me a sheit load of money. That felt good. Luckly there were no children involved.

[aircooled53]

Sorry to here about your x-wife issue, but,here is a piece of advice from someone who has been married with about the same type of problem. Go to court house and file a document called notice of seperation, then I would suggest a trip to library to get documents, they are all there, to file for a divorce.I did this with my second wife and she didn't even show up for court date.After about three months she got letter stating that we were divorced..

I lived by myself for several years, dating and running wild on some weekends.But, finally I meet my partner for life and we have been together for 18 years..

Good Luck.

[spotts]

on the internet a couple of years ago? I'd be weighing the benifits/costs of having her gone to getting her back. Good luck Todd.

[hvacpope]

Lake, you need to find another girl ASAP, talk to friends and family ask them to set you up or put your name in one of those dating services like yahoo, the best cure for your problem is another vagina for sure.

[Mr Bill]

Look at how many views this thread has, is there a lot of guys here that are anticipating the misses to move out and are looking for future advise?

[simpleman]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by mrbillpro
Look at how many views this thread has, is there a lot of guys here that are anticipating the misses to move out and are looking for future advise? [/QUOTE

NO! Its just all the wolfs waiting to hear the final verdict before they go on the hunt.LOL.

[vlux]

my first wife wasa beast, I got laid off from good job, she had to work, I was working two jobs and going to school, long story short, helped her move out, shes been married 4 times not happy, me been married for 22 years to an angel, sometimes lifeworks out funny,LAKEMAN, youre doing the right thing, only regret I have is I didnt slap my first wife, but IM not into that kind of thing.

[hillbilly in tenn]

just cant help but remember my divorce from my first wife. we had a 6 month old son involved. she wanted to get one lawyer and the whole deal, well after she moved out and in with her boyfriend he told me one day that she was going to move back to her hometown and wanted him to move also. poor guy sunk a boat load in her fast but he was smart enough to get out quick. to make a long story short i got a good lawyer and we took her to the cleaners. i got the kid plus child support. i remarried a school teacher and while things have not always been smooth we are still together. she has been married 2 more times and had countless relationships with others. hang in there lake, man you will be better off without her.

[jrag]

The only advice to just move on and start all over again till you success with your life. Wish you the luck.

[Wild Leg]

Congratulations.

You got out alive.

[Ammonianite]

I agree with the Penguin's earlier post- start protecting your assets now and get the best lawyer you can find. I was a dupe for the old "Let's have a platonic divorce" line once myself. Soon, she obtained a very good attorney and blindsided me; cleaned my clock. You hate to play hardball, but sometimes you have to. And yes, I wanted her back also; but it was not to be and I ended up much better off over time without her (besides, how could you trust someone who has repeatedly slept around on you?).

[oroy54]

I guess then that she works for her money. When a woman gets around other divorced women they create this uphoria of the perfect world with out a man. When a woman can support herself, they don't need a man. Until they get in trouble. Dont beat your self up over this lake. Divorce talk really brings out the worst in us. If you do get back together, dont let her see this thread. Remember the story about the little boy walking down the road. He sees a snake. The snake says, I am tired, pick me up and carry me. The little boy said, "You are a snake, you will bite me!" The snake said, "No I wont". So the little boy picked up the snake. And it bit him. The little boy said to the snake, "You told me that you wouldn't bite me!" The snake said, "You knew what I was when you picked me up". In a relationship it is about who need who more. And the one that loves the least is in control. Roy