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  1. #1
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    My good friend is dying

    I have an old friend that will be passing on shortly. Jason is his name, and he was always a big ol jovial guy. We went to high school together and had the same crowd of friends. He would always come over to the house for friday poker night and was the door man/bouncer at our holiday house parties in the 80's.....he was a friend of the whole family, and my mom treated him like a son.

    Jason likes good ol rock & roll music with zeppelin and hendrix being his favorites. He has an extensive classic album and memorabilia collection as well as a huge baseball card collection.
    He is the only child to his parents who have passed away in the last 10 years.

    He was diagnosed with diabetes when he was 17 and has been suffering with related issues in recent years. I got a call monday saying that he is in the hospital with stage 4 throat cancer and has requested to not have dialysis done. He remains in hospice care at the moment, and from what I hear is in good spirits. he said he is ready to move on and doesn't want the process dragged out.

    I will be going to visit him in a little while....its going to be tough, but I want to go for him, not me.

    Jason is 47 years old....so young...so sad.

    Love ya Jason...I will miss you.
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    Sorry to hear that. It's always tough to lose someone close. He will for sure appreciate your visit and your friendship through the years.
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    Sounds like you have his "desires" in mind. That's a true friend!
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    I'm glad that you have the opportunity to spend some time with him and say a proper goodbye.

    I'll pray that he gets right while he still has time.
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    It is a tough thing to do, but I think you'll be glad you
    got your chance to hang out with your friend one more time.

    its a good thing you are doing. sorry for your friend's ill health,
    hope all goes painlessly for him.
    The cure of the part should not be attempted without the cure of the whole. ~Plato

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    I went through a very similar thing with a co-worker who was a friend for 20+ years and saw the hope and defeat in his eyes over his long battle, into remission and watched it rear it's ugly head a year later and take him from us. He was just a few years older than your friend, but not much. energy_rater_La has some wise words but don't neglect your own grief. I did that when my daughter passed in her teens and it ate me away for a long time.
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    Thanks Guys!

    I went and saw him and he told me that he wants every one to have a party for him....its being planned at the moment.

    He said that he wants to be cremated and have his ashes sprinkled over his mom and dads graves...less on his moms side lolz.

    He truly is ready and has no fear. Im sure his spirit will be with us, watching us celebrate his life.

    "Lord my body has been a good friend
    But I wont need it when I reach the end" - Cat Stevens
    "The road to Hell is paved with progressive policies."

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    Quote Originally Posted by coolwhip View Post

    "Lord my body has been a good friend
    But I wont need it when I reach the end" - Cat Stevens
    "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - the Gospel of John
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    the party is a great idea. it is to celebrate his life, not his death.
    I'd like to think that there are better things for us on the other side.
    The cure of the part should not be attempted without the cure of the whole. ~Plato

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    Raises glass to Jason and good friends.


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    Quote Originally Posted by energy_rater_La View Post
    I'd like to think that there are better things for us on the other side.
    That depends entirely on what arrangements we make BEFORE we get there.
    Last edited by timebuilder; 04-25-2013 at 05:00 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by timebuilder View Post
    That depends entirely on what arrangements we make BEFORE we get there.
    I agree. If you don't want to do it yourself, please take somebody with you to visit and see if he would be willing to accept the blood sacrifice of Jesus Christ for his sins. Without this covering in his life, things are going to be very unpleasant for him after death. We are eternal beings, and we live forever in one of two places. I think you will have a lot of regret if you don't do this. Maybe you already have?

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