I do part time counseling for a chemical dependency department for Creighton University here in Omaha. My best friend is a board certified physician and a addiction medicine specialist. He’s how I go into this work, from my old college days. But the point I’m making is; I get asked a lot of questions from people on how to find a good book to help cope with addicts, trauma victims and relationships in general. So for anyone who has experience in this department or that would like to really take a step forward, here’s the book that will do this. It’s a text book that you get on your 4th year Med-school, but it’s a vital piece of information for anyone struggling or who’s trying to save someone’s life. Please note, this is a hard book to get. But its out there…Here’s the synopsis .
"Traumatic Relationships and Serious Mental Disorders: by Jon G.Allen"
Mental, physical, or sexual abuse in close personal relationships commonly results in trauma that is very different from the trauma of accidents, illness, or war. Little is more intellectually challenging, emotionally demanding, and difficult than therapeutic work with survivors of such traumatic personal relationships and those close to them.
This book provides psychologists, psychiatrists, nurses, and counsellors with a powerful conceptual framework and a concise, masterly review of a huge knowledge base that will support and guide treatment and prevention programmes for these serious problems.
This volume: synthesises extensive clinical experience with a comprehensive review of the clinical and research literature presents a unique developmental perspective informed by attachment theory, while integrating key aspects of evolutionary, neurobiological, cognitive behavioural, interpersonal, and psychodynamic concepts
explains not only how trauma creates extreme distress in the patient, particularly as manifested in PTSD, but also how it undermines the individual's ability to cope with such distress delineates the significant contribution of trauma to other serious disorders, including dissociative disturbances, depression, drug abuse, eating disorders, self-harm, and personality disorders
The key elements of successful interventions are the engagement and motivation of the patient. This book provides therapists with the framework, knowledge base, and practical guidelines for educating patients and those close to them about the nature of trauma, its consequences, and treatment. The author presents in detail his own "tried and tested" education-based interventions. This book will be an immensely valuable resource for practitioners and academics working in all therapeutic traditions.
A senior staff psychologist at the Menninger Clinic first explains the developmental foundation underlying the severe psychopathology that can result from trauma, as well as the rationale for trauma treatment. He discusses a range of trauma-related psychiatric disorders, including post-traumatic stress disorder, dissociative disorders, and other potential comorbid disorders. He then addresses treatment and long-term management issues in trauma treatment. A final chapter describes how the understanding of trauma can inform therapists about their own mental health risks, and offers guidance on staying healthy.
My research has put troubled women in about 4 sub groups. The things is, sometimes it takes time to identify these traits
1. Those who's comfort zone is misery.
They always have their abuse story, state they are trying to put it behind them and after awhile you get the picture of why they have an abuse story to begin with.
2. Those looking for a sperm donor.
3. Constant shoppers. Not satisfied with the shoes they bought or the man they have.
4. What can you do for me today woman. Doesn't matter how many home runs you hit yesterday for her.
How many are you going to hit today?
All these personalities can also be a catalyst for chemical abuse when they never figure out what they are doing wrong.
I said "troubled women" and they are out there . Not all women are like this. And men can easily fit into these groups. But I don't study them.
I think James has been traumatized a lot in the past.
Often by red heads....
You have two daughters. Get ready to write your own book
OH my God,.. I have too much to say on this subject. I am curently experiencing all of the above. I will tell you this, as I write this I am experiencing the PHYSICAL pain created by depression. Depression causes body acks and arthritic like pain in your joints. I have been in this pain for so long it has weared me down to the point where I crave vicoden and get very antisocial. I think I could write a book and I've been told by psyciatrist and my lawyer that I should. I'd like to get this book, but I think it might just tell me what I already know.
It's steep at 100$, I would normally spend that kind of money on a book like Internation Electric Code book or the likes. I'm sure I need this book, I can tell from the cover that reminds me of a Winny the Poo book with Tigger on the cover. Relly though, I'm sure I do need this book, it better not tell me what I already know or I'm gonna send it to you with some dubious whit poweder in the pages.
John -- I hear what your're going through. This book basicly explaines in detail about early trauma and how it manifests into adult hood. Such as compulsions, substance abuse and addiction, sexual addiction and others. This book is actually at the top of the ciriclulum of all Medical schools. Which is why its hard to get somtimes. I had to wait 3 months from amazon and barnes N nobe; to get it. I actually ended up ordering it through a University Med school. This book will change the way you look at people and yourself, thats for sure.
I read this book years ago and talked to the author
The bad part about most anti-depressents is, they're highly addictive. So proper diagnosage is very important. Most of mans problems start between the ages of 1-4, before we start developing memory. Our brain is basicly wired when we're that age and we start to delvelop the Antir-singulet part of our brain (the part that controls, love/empathy and emotions) So any type of trauama associated as a child, will wire itself into the antir-singulet. So drugs; that try to raise siritonin or maritonin levels try to compensate for that. I could go on for hours about this, but you kind of get my drift.
My problem is that I know what my problem is but I can't control it sometimes. My perception of reality is in flux, similar to the feeling of insecurity people have after they experience an earth quake, I have had an earth quake of the brain so to speak. I would think that a lot of what is written in the book is stuff I have already researched and have been told by my psyciatrists and psycologists, but knowing that, does it give me more cognitive control? The problem with cognitive control is you must have self control, just because you know you feel like doing or saying something wrong dosnt mean you necessarily want to not say it or do it. It's kinda like a psycopath that gets the wrong stimuli from his or her behavior, like feelings of pleasure from murder and so forth.
I feel like I have gained and lost key things that affect this whole thing. I feel that most of what has happened to me is new to the science of psycology and so, there may be no predictable path for me to take, no real good advise to take. About all I have is the fact that I know what my situation is and I use cognative behavior control to keep me in some sorta check, for the most part.
You know they have a new program that actually monitors the brain. What it does is, monitors parts of the brain for changes in siritonin levels and 100 other areas. It just came out these past few years, its very expensive, but its like a last resort for bio-chemicaly and severe bio-polar disorders. Have you ever been offeredd this type of tratment? I could ask the medical staff here at the university, if you want more info. Do you ever experiance mania? Like manic depression? From what you say, it sounds like chemical disorder. You might be eligiable for a certain kind of treatment.
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You guys are absolutely ridiculous.
John, you and I have met. Now I have to tell you. Your a normal enough person to me to overcome your relationship doifficultuis, brain problem or not. YOU HAVE ALL THE TOOLS NECCESARY.
Thats the trouble in this society. Take a pill to make it all better. Drink a twelve pack, cause eventually when I am so disgustingly addicted and drugged and antisocial, something or someone will resuce me. Self pity. Our society today teaches you to have a lack of accountability for your actions. A lack of remorse and responsibiltiy. Dutifullness ect.
It's absolutely ridiculous. Man up.