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Your a tougher man then I, keep your chin up and your faith strong. We will pray for you and your family.

Bittan
Go back and read Timebuilders 1st post, will keep you and your family in our prayers

Bittan, you and your family are in my prayers. cherish the time with your family and use this time to draw closer to God. there is nothing He can't do. i am a living example of what He can do. God Bless and keep you and your family.

Originally Posted by bittan

Thanks again for all your replies. I'm not sure what the future will bring but will continue to keep up on the latest in HVAC. I still like it. It's nice when other techs (especially the newer ones) call me on my cell phone to help troubleshoot or simply ask my opinion. They know I have nothing to gain and am calm with them. I'm sure if a family member or close friend calls I'd go out to take a look, give a second opinion or let them know if a contractors's price is fair. Funny thing, I have 15 years of tools, meters, gages, etc neatly stacked and organized on shelves in my basement----WHAT to do? When and which ones do I sell? They are like a part of me, both funtional and sentimental. My silly mind doesn't want to "let go". Even though I have no use for 90% of them. I kind of like looking at them as they remind me of the work I did.

I've thought the same thing when I got Diagnosed last year.

Wow bud thats rough. I'll say a prayer, wish I could help. Both of my Parents had cancer, my Mom is recovering but I lost my Dad in 2001. I cant imagine how rough it would be for you. Keep up the fight.

It's amazing how much of your story involves remembering the financial worries you went through while dealing with this. It's precisely cases like these when someone simply should not worry about money, let alone face losing their one and only home.

Disability insurance did what it's supposed to do, but the health industry robbed you. Where would you be without disability payments? Probably not typing here. Where would you be with universal healthcare? At least still in the home you've lived in.

I'm sorry, but its not the bible or prayer that helps people in these cases, it's other people. It's people that can make things much worse, or much better. Spread your experience. Tell how it really happens and what it feels like. You can still do much good for further improvement of our society, even if you can't lift heavy things anymore.

Originally Posted by bittan

Thanks again for all your replies. I'm not sure what the future will bring but will continue to keep up on the latest in HVAC. I still like it. It's nice when other techs (especially the newer ones) call me on my cell phone to help troubleshoot or simply ask my opinion. They know I have nothing to gain and am calm with them. I'm sure if a family member or close friend calls I'd go out to take a look, give a second opinion or let them know if a contractors's price is fair. Funny thing, I have 15 years of tools, meters, gages, etc neatly stacked and organized on shelves in my basement----WHAT to do? When and which ones do I sell? They are like a part of me, both funtional and sentimental. My silly mind doesn't want to "let go". Even though I have no use for 90% of them. I kind of like looking at them as they remind me of the work I did.

That's funny! I have a lot of stuff I never use that I won't let go of, too.

And I know what you mean about some having sentimental value. Wheen my tuck and almost 16k of MY tools were stolen back in May, I felt personally violated.

Make the most of today, ok?

Thanks again for all your replies. I'm not sure what the future will bring but will continue to keep up on the latest in HVAC. I still like it. It's nice when other techs (especially the newer ones) call me on my cell phone to help troubleshoot or simply ask my opinion. They know I have nothing to gain and am calm with them. I'm sure if a family member or close friend calls I'd go out to take a look, give a second opinion or let them know if a contractors's price is fair. Funny thing, I have 15 years of tools, meters, gages, etc neatly stacked and organized on shelves in my basement----WHAT to do? When and which ones do I sell? They are like a part of me, both funtional and sentimental. My silly mind doesn't want to "let go". Even though I have no use for 90% of them. I kind of like looking at them as they remind me of the work I did.

Keep n you in our prayers.

Bittan,
Thanks for letting us in on your situation. I can't imagine where you are but I truly hope you have found faith. I know that is the ONLY thing that keeps me going when it gets really bad.

And I once again have to reduce my severity level of "Bad" in respect to your situation.

No one has ever said they wished they had spent more time at work when faced with a life threatening event.

Love on your family and trust God, that is the only wisdom I have for you.

God bless, I will keep you and your family in my prayers, daily !

CCI

Only the strong will survive!

Bittan you R 1 strong man. These days life has been tough on alot of famillies but here in North America we have had it very good for a long time and guys tend to take lots for granted. I think God or life throws curve balls at us sometimes to keep us strong and only the strong will survive in tough times. Good Luck and I know you will get through it.

I really dont know what to say man...............

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, hang tough.

Just the fact that you have experienced so many hardships and are still standing speaks volumes about your strength and courage. You are still here on this earth and, whether you know it or not, are providing folks around you with valuable life lessons. Would love to see you come and join in the thread that has already been posted. Bittan keep your head held high and will say a prayer for you.
Dennis

Originally Posted by bittan

Thanks for all the replies and support! I have found local group counseling here supportive. This is why I shared --- Not for pity's sake but simply to talk out loud. I have always enjoyed this site. Not that I have posted a lot over the years but always knew there are a LOT of smart HVAC guys who could not only answer my questions but have a great sense of humor
God Bless.

Never apologizes thes guys understand hows treatment going?

Thanks for all the replies and support! I have found local group counseling here supportive. This is why I shared --- Not for pity's sake but simply to talk out loud. I have always enjoyed this site. Not that I have posted a lot over the years but always knew there are a LOT of smart HVAC guys who could not only answer my questions but have a great sense of humor
God Bless.

I am here for ya too! If I can be in FCS' corner... I can be in your corner too! I have been fortunate in my life to be in pretty good shape (although I feel like I am 84...) and I have no clue how you deal with your situation.... but I want you to know that I will have you in my thoughts and prayers as I know many others here will too.
Head up and shoulders back... cause you have nothing to be ashamed of nor do you have any reason to think... "why you". This may be a test... and as with any test.... you can get through it. My black cloud changes shades from pitch black to dark gray daily.... but as long as I can see the color.. I know I am alive and I have a chance to get to to disappear. Keep posting and coming back.... as will I
Warren

I feel for you come join us http://hvac-talk.com/vbb/showthread....47362&page=792

Bittan

I'm just about to take my last Cancer treatment I been 3 surgeries and a year of treatment 3 times a week. and After all that I have a 40% to 50% of 2 - 5 year survival.

come Join us at http://hvac-talk.com/vbb/showthread....47362&page=792 the guys are great and I don't know is I could have made it with out them.


PM or email me if you need to talk.


A fellow Cancer Patient

Bret

you are in my prayers my friend. cherish this time with your family no matter how short it is. the reason i say this is that even though it seems so tough just let them know EVERY day how important they are to you.

my uncle was in perfect health and athletic and at the age of 44 he collapsed one day in the kitchen with no warning signs. he died on the spot, ended up he had an anyuerism in his brain and he left behind a wife and 4 daughters. he was so caught up with work and other things he never got the chance to say what he felt and to be shown what was REALLY important in his life......his family.

Because we don't, and can't, see the Big Picture, our first inclination is to ask God, "why me? What did I do to deserve this?" The answer is most likely that you did nothing to "deserve" this. If you are a believer, then you have to ask yourself how you can serve Him by facing this adversity with Honor and Courage. And, why should you even consider that question?

You see, all these experiences are interconnected. Something happens, you react. Others react. You family sees your struggle, they help, and they learn. Others observe your reaction to duress. They pray, they consider your trial, and take a second hand lesson in what you are experiencing directly. In other words, what is a rough ride for you becomes an inspiration and lesson to others. For some, it may be as simple as "look out for that black ice." To others, it may be "live your life right for your Creator, because you never know when your time will end here."

My advice is to cherish every moment you have, to pray for wisdom and strength, and support your wife as she prepares to take the next steps of her life knowing that you have loved her and your child. And, I would recommend that you draw closer to God, because we ALL will meet Him eventually, believers or not. There is a lot of strength to be draw from in times of adversity. If you want an example of a man who loved God and yet, had the whole manure pile dumped on him, pick up a Bible and read the book of Job (pronounced "Jobe"). If nothing else, you will say to yourself, here's a guy who went through a lot more than I have.

And remember, someone, maybe several others, are learning from your experience, whether they know it or not. Your life is a puzzle piece in their lives. Make it as good a piece as you can, while you can.