Oh the joys of familys

[oroy54]

This was bad timing. I guess they all think that Roy is ok.
Cheryl's niece moved in here 2 weeks ago. She is 21. A nice looking girl, packing a black 18 month little boy. The girl has been asleep for the last 3 days I guess. I come and go to work. Last night I call Cheryl from work. I told her to shake the girl to see if she was still alive. I do not have a happy face. Why do girls do this?

[tech_support007]

When a young girl sleeps for that amount of time it means that she is coming "down".

[oroy54]

That went over my head.

[ralphtheplumber]

Roy, you're right to open your home to somebody who apparently needs it.

However, it sounds like you need to get her on the right track. Sounds like she needs a job, a regular schedule, and maybe a little detox.

It might be a good chance to explain "Romans".

[oroy54]

I think I need to refresh my self on "Romans". And Titus.

[coordinatesales]

I've seen the same thing happen to a friend. Opening your home is a good first step. She will need the love and support you can show and you will need all the patience you can muster. Detox will be needed as well. Teens can sleep a lot but 3 days is someone coming down from a high, and not normal. I my case I prefer F.A.I.T.H. to Romans but the result is the same (hopefully).

[Wild Leg]

It is certainly strange to have an "extra" around the house.

She's probably awake while you're not there, and apparently asleep when you are.

She's avoiding conflict, by ignoring it.

Romans is a good idea.

So is a job, school, or SOMETHING.

Good luck.

[tech_support007]

Originally posted by oroy54
That went over my head.

Sorry. Along time ago, I hade a female friend that was into the drug sceen and when she finally had nowhere to go. I took her in and all she did was sleep for the first 2-weeks. the good news is she now has her life together and is finishing her last year of college.

[coolwhip]

If the boys daddy is alive, I hope he is paying child support.
My advice is to get them out of there as soon as possible or your screwed. She may leave and you will have a child to raise.

[oroy54]

I'm a nice guy, but not that that nice. I call the little boy Holmes. He comes to me. All the girls here just love it. I am sick of it. The timing could have been better. Lets talk about going fishing or something. Those *****es think with their emotion, not their intelligence. I am Grumpy

[dutchcool]

Roy, i would give here a couple of days to find peace of mind, than give her some light duties for a couple of weeks, you know cooking vacuuming, than after that a good talk and tell her she needs to get a job if she wants to put her life and that of her offspring back on the tracks.
She needs a place to stay, but dont force her ta go and live with somekind of lowlive.


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[Edited by dutchcool on 09-26-2006 at 03:53 PM]

[spotts]

Originally posted by tech_support007
When a young girl sleeps for that amount of time it means that she is coming "down".


Sleep for 3 days? I'd guess shes been up for 7 then. Read my friend: http://www.lifeormeth.org/

[smokin68]

Nothing wrong with helping someone out, but they have to want to help themselves.She hasn't bottomed out yet. Sometimes young people need a helping hand and a helping foot......

[too tall terry]

Originally posted by dutchcool
Roy, i would give here a couple of days to find peace of mind, than give her some light duties for a couple of weeks, you know cooking vacuuming, than after that a good talk and tell her she needs to get a job if she wants to put her life and that of her offspring back on the tracks.
She needs a place to stay, but dont force her ta go and live with somekind of lowlive.


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[Edited by dutchcool on 09-26-2006 at 03:53 PM] that is a funny a$$ sign......lmao,Roy,you are a good man,for wanting to help........and everybody seems to give you good advice,you can only help people who want helped......find out if she does have a drug problem,if she does,this must be addressed before anything else.........i coached basketball here in my town for a few years,told all the kids ,my door was always open to them,as long as they were clean......my star point guard is serving 5 years for various drug related offenses.........i did all i could do,but he was not the same person i knew when he was in the 6th.7th,and 8 th grade when i coached him...........sometimes my friend,it is what it is.....best of luck to you!!!!!!!!

[gruntly]

Originally posted by oroy54
I'm a nice guy, but not that that nice. I call the little boy Holmes. He comes to me. All the girls here just love it. I am sick of it. The timing could have been better. Lets talk about going fishing or something. Those *****es think with their emotion, not their intelligence. I am Grumpy


Somebody call me?... No?... Close enough...

After all you've been through in the last little while, Roy, you don't deserve anymore weight on your shoulders, pal, BUT that said, if you are a religious man, these things are sent to test.

I'm not the guy to give advise in a case like this. I'm lucky. My kids and my sibs kids don't give me too much trouble. They just need a boot broken off in their respective butts once in a while.

Hang in there, Roy.

[oroy54]

A helping foot? I will buy that. Every one has there own problems. But for her. Bad timing. I have My own set of problems. The results of my son's death is not here yet. There are a lot of unanswered questions. So much that Cheryl wrights thing down, I think that I am coming out of shock. I am starting to get angry now. I did things the only way I knew how. No one blames me. I just sort of blame my self.

[smokin68]

Oroy,

You're obviously still understandably not in your normal state of mind. Only time will help that. Noone can fully understand what you're going through, so just do what you think is right. Best wishes to you and your family Oroy.

[oroy54]

One of these days.

[Edited by oroy54 on 09-28-2006 at 01:10 AM]